What might you be concerned about

What might I be concerned about? A person:

not getting the help or care they need
being hurt, bullied, frightened or intimidated
being taken advantage of, or exploited because of their age, disability or illness
not being allowed to make their own choices or decisions
being made to do something against their will
not being treated in a dignified or respectful manner

If you witness abuse or are worried about some one you know it is important that you try and help. You may be worried about seeming interfering or maybe scared of getting it wrong but you could be their only source of help. If you suspect someone you know is being abused or mistreated and want to get help try and talk to them first and explain what you want to do and why.

If you are worried

try to talk to the person; be open and honest with them about what is worrying you -
Give the person the chance to talk. Take time to listen to them -
Stay calm. It may be difficult for the person to talk; they may be worried about how you will react -
The person may ask you not to tell anyone else about the abuse
Always be honest and never make promises you cant keep -
Ask the person what they would want to happen -
Try and explain who might be able to help.
You might offer to approach someone on their behalf if they cant do it themselves

It can take people a long time and a lot of courage before they speak out and seek help. Few people make a decision to change overnight.

Remember that abuse is not always deliberate. It may be that someone is trying to do their best in a difficult situation. You may be a relative, friend or carer who needs help or support in difficult circumstances. If you are and you want help or support you can contact Oxfordshire Social & Community Services' Social and Health Care team.

Contact information is as follows:

Telephone: 0845 0507 666
SMS: 07788 571577
Fax: 01865 783111
Postal Address: Social and Health Care team, PO Box 780, Oxford, OX1 9GX
Email: socialandhealthcare@oxfordshire.gov.uk
Out of hours emergency: 0800 833408 (freephone)

Or you can go to the Carers in Oxfordshire website.